Showing posts from August, 2017

Dear younger self..

Dearest readers,

After powering through 7 transcripts over the last week (I will get them done before term starts, even better if done sooner). I thought I'd reward this massive movement in work getting shifted, aided somewhat by a deadline, through a therapeutic blog. This title came to me about a week ago, when I was working on my university's clearing hotline over lunch. I want to tell myself, and let you walk alongside with me while I do so, many things I wish my younger self had known. As I have grown older, I have grown into who I am - I was never very good at "teenagering" or "young adulting" in the typical manner - well I only have a month of that left anyway and my young person's rail card expired in April (and I have no idea who to talk to at uni about getting a new one, as now I'm no longer "young" they need to authorise it with stamps or what not... too much hassle when I normally drive everywhere now). Age is merely a concept …

How to welcome someone like Christ - an #actuallyautistic perspective

Hello dearest readers, 
Here is something close to my heart and that I wish to share: how I find church. I have been quite open with my church in talking about some of the challenges I face currently and in the past. In fact I would go as far as saying church is one of the few places that does cause me issues and can trigger me, which is completely against the welcome that is supposed to be felt, given that church is supposed to be welcoming, loving and open to all. It has taken a while to build up to this and the last thing I want to be seen to be doing is criticising people, because that is just not what I'm out to do. Rather, show an autistic perspective on my experience of church and consider what we could be doing to extend the love and welcome that Jesus had for all to all. For after all, isn't church for everyone? 
As someone who does have social anxiety, it took me many years to walk into the open doors of the church alone. This sounds very odd for someone who appears…

What I wish you knew

Hello dearest readers,
So said title is quite self-explanatory really. What I wish you knew. I think as humans we throw around a lot of assumptions and we think we know a lot in comparison to what we actually know about people, irrelevant of our status, life experience, diagnoses (or lack of), possessions, etc. These all help us and guide us in our assumptions and inferences. Some information is hard to access, so an inference us our best guess and sometimes more ethical to consider what might be going on behind the scenes rather than base things on objectivity. However, it can also be dangerous in some cases to assume your own perspective and to imprint this upon someone else. Here I will reflect on a few things that maybe we all ought to consider:
My emotions are not your emotions Just because we have the concepts of 'happy', 'sad', etc does not mean we all experience them in the same manner and with the variables equating to the same emotions. It also means when we …

Happy 1st birthday: Attentiveness to Autism

Dearest readers, 
Happy 8th August - it has been one year since my minister and I embarked on a journey that neither of us expected: from how large this had grown, the need that I never expected would want to be fed (this grew out of a moan from me) and how many opportunities would come out of this. I had never planned to be running and teaching workshops, being a rotational panellist on the radio or writing a blog, let alone even running a service - organising from scratch and introducing everyone on stage - and being on the Methodist additional needs round table! This all erupted from one fly by comment I made on a photo on Facebook. Such great things I find happen rather coincidently and without me sitting down and doing a five-year plan (I don't even see the point in doing one to be honest). I find God tends to work with the unexpected so keeping an open mind is always beneficial, I mean, when I chose to follow God I didn't say fit in with my rules and pre-set plans. The …

Open to the community?

Dearest readers,

I hope this post finds you well and well rested after the weekend. I've had this title sat in my drafts for the last month now as I keep getting other more pressing ideas to write about. My best friend works in a library and from what I understand, some libraries are looking into what they can do to have their spaces more accessible, not just in terms of ramps and physical adjustments but also other things which are not automatically thought of as an 'accessibility issue'. I also know my local group of libraries are also looking at a similar thing. With all the cuts that libraries are under and continuing to face it is admirable that they are not resting on their laurels and are continuing to find ways to improve access to services and a love of reading and books to the community. I've not always enjoyed reading, but I did always used to enjoy visiting my local library when I was much younger to get books out and even now I enjoy visiting to use the lo…

Why we need to speak up as Christians

Dearest readers, 
I came across this small piece of the Bible shared as an image on my time line by a local Methodist preacher I am connected with on Facebook and it got me thinking again. 
'Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly, defend the rights of the poor and needy' Proverbs 31, 8-9
Being the overdriven person that I am that never switches off from work, this jumped out at me in terms of autism (which of course it would). I'm often on the hunt for things like this, small challenges to Christians and church bodies. I find some of the best challenges are not always aggressive or forceful, but from a fresh perspective that takes one back to reflect and think how this may be applicable. There is a time and place for both. I don't like shouting really anyway, it doesn't suit me (as I frequently get told) and certainly not in the church environment. 
Back to point in case above, this stru…